On Men and Women

[lightcastle]

I don't think I ever linked to this post about the "Terrible Bargain" many women feel they strike with the men in their lives.

Well worth a read.

And as long as we're on the subject, here is a manifesto for radical masculinity by Sinclair Sexsmith.

Well, it isn't really a manifesto. It is, however, a comment on the prescriptive nature of the standard gender roles and how that screws up men. It's also about the never-ending quest to find out what butch means and what masculinity can be without the misogyny.

So I have studied butch. I was not born with swagger: I learned it.I have studied butch. I was not born with swagger: I learned it. I earned it. I was not born knowing how to use a cock or tie a tie or match my belt to my shoes or court a girl or refrain from chivalry when it's not welcome or to contain something big and chaotic.I earned it. I was not born knowing how to use a cock or tie a tie or match my belt to my shoes or court a girl or refrain from chivalry when it's not welcome or to contain something big and chaotic.

Part 2 is here.

Comments

[sevenhelz]

Hmm.
I had, of course, seen the Terrible Bargain before.

So I read the stuff about masculinity, and, um, it seems terribly obvious to me? Like it shouldn't need saying. Not even a "yes, this", more of a, "yes, so?"... I'm finding this with a few things lately so maybe it's just me. There were a few turns of phrase I liked, such as the lesbian rite of passage. I'm not sure I like the term radical masculinity... ehh.
Goodnight.

[lightcastle]

Actually, most of your issues with it are similar to mine. I'm enjoying watching it unfold, and curious where it goes to, but so far it has been a lot of, "yes, so?"